How Couples Heal

“I joined the lab in July and I am deeply grateful for the work you are doing Derek. I have only been able to sit in on one of the labs, but I watch the replays. I could say we could have had you come along a few years earlier when we were in real deep pain, Thankfully not so much today. Watching the couples who share is such a good way to see that we all struggle with the same thing, just in different shoes! I really appreciate being able to see what was missing and now practicing what we see.”

“With Derek’s support, I had a huge breakthrough from a childhood trauma that I’ve tried to shake off for the last 40 years and from long term hurt I have in my relationship. Derek has a huge intuition, sensitivity and deep understanding of human’s emotional bodies and needs and he is skilled in guiding hard moments to soften allowing conflicts to be approached in a different way. His ability to ’meet’ a human being wherever they are is a gift to those who come seeking for support.”

“I've been part of Derek's training for a year now. (Switched programs recently so it may not show up that I've been a paying member for a year.) As a seasoned relationship coach, I've found his approaches to be powerful and unique. They've clearly aided me in working with couples, but also in my own life relationships with being able to access true vulnerability more readily. I'm grateful to have had access to Derek's work.”

“Derek has taught me more about vulnerability than any counselor, therapist, or coach I’ve ever worked with. What makes him so impactful is that he truly practices what he teaches. Week after week, he models authenticity, openness, and compassion while skillfully guiding couples in distress toward deeper understanding and connection. His work has profoundly changed how I understand vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and what it means to truly show up in relationship.”

“Derek is for me a practice what you preach teacher and that is hugely valuable for me. I have met nobody that teaches so beautifully as he does. It is the first time in my life I feel that there is a possibility for me to get out of the problems I get myself into in my relationships.His depth of experience is a joy to me. He teaches with care, precision, humor, love and clarity. My partner and me start to have a better relationship as we watch him work with people and work with us. So grateful”